If you answered A: It's likely that you take in the world through auditory means - you are influenced by what you hear, spoken messages, music etc and can easily take in information by listening.  It's possible you don't even look at people when you are talking/listening because for you, hearing/speaking is enough for communication to take place. It's important for you to recognise that many people do NOT take in information this way through their ears (even though they may have good hearing) and they do not process a complex message just by listening to it. If you find yourself being exasperated because you 'told them that' and they still didn't take it in, this might explain it.  Instead others may want to visually communicate or email/write...they may want you to watch as they enhance their message with hand movements, gestures or sketch something etc. You are auditory; not everyone else is.

If you answered B:  It's likely that you are a visual person.  The look and sight of something is important to you. It may be preferable for you to see something, visualise it or be shown something rather than be told about it.  You might be someone who notices clothing, details even clutter etc more than others around you. You might, for example, remember a particular music Album by the image of the cover rather than the sound of the music tracks initially.   For you it would be good to know that other people don't necessarily take in the world through their eyes (even though they can see well)...and they may not notice or be bothered by clutter or details or the look of something in the same way you might.  They are operating on a different system from you and will be taking in information that you will not and vice versa. 

If you answered C:  The chances are that you have logical tendencies and have to make sense of everything as a priority to understanding it and moving on.  It's possible that you take in the world and information around you by Internal Auditory Dialogue - a bit like speaking to yourself - and process things step by step, in an orderly and probably efficient way.  For you it's hard to accept that people can function well by not proceeding in a logical, methodical, sensible way.  However, there ARE other ways to do things - creative and fun ways can still work and can produce interesting results that logic alone would not have found.  Your way makes sense to you but not everyone functions in this way so be open to other people's different approaches for there is more than one way 'to skin a cat' (sorry cats).

If you answered D: You are probably a kinaesthetic or feeling-orientated person.  You learn by doing something rather than just being told or reading about it.  You process things through your body and hands, not just eyes and ears. You are likely to be swayed by your feelings on something and not just by pure logic.  You may be able to pick up on how other people are feeling and have great intuition.  Being comfortable, in every sense, may be important to you.   It's necessary for you to recognise that other people operate in different ways.  They may not take into account how others are feeling and indeed, may not notice.  They may say something that you consider unsayable - because they don't take into account the effect of the message when it lands on someone.  It helps to know that some people just aren't as sensitive to feelings as you are, it's just not their strong suit in life, as it is yours.

The above gives an indication of the various Learning Preferences in adults - the three main ways being Auditory, Visual, Kinaesthetic (feeling)...plus a fourth category around Logic and Auditory Internal Dialogue.  It's not about right and wrong, it's about difference.  Which are you?  What is your partner... your close colleagues?  Listen to the words they use because there will be clues.  For example, a visual person may use visual-related words like: See this...I like the look of that....Let me have sight of it..we don't see eye to eye. etc.  If you can work out what someone else's preference is, it will make sense of why they are like they are.  If you can work it out, you'll have grasped a valuable NLP tool because now you know how to communicate with them in a way they will most appreciate - and that's bound to be the most effective way.   Food for thought?

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  has to be learned from skilled trainers.   To explore what NLP can do for you, contact  

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